EXCLUSIVE GUIDE
The Elopement Guide
Welcome to the gang, lovers!
Hey, how’s it going? Welcome to the gang!
I’m Rona the Humanist Celebrant and I represent Humanist Society Scotland!
I specialise in modern wedding ceremonies, from the wee elopements in the mountains to the big boys in fancy venues.
I absolutely LOVE my job! My job is to work alongside you, to help create a wedding ceremony that suits you. It's a tailor-made experience where you can kiss goodbye to traditional rituals and bring in your own vibes.
They’re the modern and non-religious way to celebrate those big milestones in your own style. If you're the kind of person who values human connections, ethics, and emotions over religious beliefs, then a Humanist Ceremony might be right up your street!
In my previous role as a wedding coordinator and event manager I witnessed first hand how stressful and daunting wedding planning can be. I want to help ensure you are the safest pair of hands and get the wedding day you imagine, but more importantly, deserve! Minus the stress! That's my job...to look after you, guide you, and take you on an epic journey as you start this next chapter... I've got your back, every step of the way!
Have a read through this information I have put together to help start the process and give you an introduction into Humanist Ceremonies with me!
I’m here if you have any questions!
Big love,
Rona
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Intro
HEY,
I’M RONA
It’s a big deal booking your suppliers, you want to be surrounded by the creme de la creme team on your wedding day!
Take your time, read through this document, read through testimonials and trust the recommendations given to you... You're going to tell me your story, share your big day, vows and journey this far so you have to trust me...
I was brought up in the Highlands of Scotland, near the Isle of Skye. My childhood was unique, spending a lot of time outdoors, playing in the mud and being dragged up mountains. I might have moaned at the time, but this has shaped me to who I am now, and I’m happiest when I’m in the great outdoors exploring new places and meeting new people. I’m a keen traveller, and I’m privileged enough to have visited some cracking countries. I think it’s important to expand your horizons, experiencing new cultures, and appreciating the world in which we live. Saying that... There is no place like home!
I’ve been a Humanist Celebrant for 5 years now, and I absolutely LOVE my job!
A few facts about me;
I love, LOVE! I’m a total sucker for a good love story, and have been known to cry (discreetly) at personal vows.
I’ve been a pescatarian all my life. Hugger, dog lover, and a flat white drinker who loves a good belly laugh!
I’m one of the youngest celebrant’s in Scotland, I’ve conducted over 400 weddings, but I’ve never been married myself. Always the celebrant, never the bride! Pah!
Enthusiastic for life, and the people in it. My background has always been working with people, I believe in connection and caring for others. From HR Roles, to working at Eilean Donan Castle as a wedding coordinator, looking after people has always been right at the heart of it.
When I became a Humanist Celebrant and my life changed for the better, as cheesy as that sounds... I truly found my purpose in life.
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Humanist Ceremonies
ALWAYS PERSONAL,
ALWAYS INCLUSIVE.
A Humanist wedding offers couples a non-religious, yet warm, inclusive and personalised ceremony which you will enjoy and remember forever.
Basically, my ceremonies provide a very personal and meaningful way for couples to celebrate their marriage.
Obviously, the ceremony will be non religious and humanist in content and it is important that you are happy that the humanist approach is reflective of your beliefs. Beyond that, there is a great deal of flexibility about the content, structure and style of the ceremony.
Your special day should be perfect in every way and I can help make it extra-special. It’s your day; we’ll do it your way, any place and any time. For you. I will do my very best to assist with every aspect of your ceremony. But your ceremony can be as simple or elaborate, formal or informal as you wish.
You’ve got your partner, your love story, and your shared beliefs. Now, imagine crafting a ceremony that's a reflection of all that good stuff!
Humanist ceremonies are like a canvas where you get to paint the picture of your journey together.
No pressure to follow traditions you’re not into. Instead, you can let your imagination run wild. Want to have your ceremony in a unique place? Go for it. Prefer a relaxed vibe? No problem. It’s your day, your way.
We will work together to create a ceremony that feels like you, from start to finish. I’ll get to know you, listen to your stories, your visions, and help you weave it all into a ceremony that's personal and meaningful.
HUMANIST SOCIETY SCOTLAND
You may not know this... but the reason you can have a legal Humanist Wedding in Scotland is because of the hard graft from our charity Humanist Society Scotland
Although I am self employed, I represent them the Humanist Society Scotland. We've been conducting legal Humanist Weddings in Scotland since 2005, and in 2014 we fought for equal marriage and won! Love is love, right?
I am so proud of this organisation and charity and can’t express in to words the honour it is to be part of a charity and country who encourage freedom of speech, human rights and change.
By becoming a member of our Humanist Society Scotland fam. You're not just getting hitched – you're joining a movement. Your support keeps us spreading those Humanist values and making the world a better place.
All couples getting married with a Humanist Society Scotland celebrant are asked to support our charity by securing their date through the Humanist Society Scotland website. The cost to join is £98.
This includes your membership to our charity, insurance, cover in case of emergency, peace of mind, and of course your date is secured!
Please note this is separate to my fee quoted below. See it as a deposit. It’s non refundable. Until you have secured your date through the HSS system and paid your membership, your date is not secure.
One of the best things when you book a Humanist Society Scotland Celebrant is we have a very well establish, highly trained bunch of celebrants all over Scotland. If in the very unlikely event I can’t be there on the day due to out of our control circumstances then HSS will provide cover on the day. They can log into our system, gather your script and info and you won’t need to worry! Obviously, this is the worst case scenario, but the peace of mind when booking is essential. You’re in safe hands with us.
A Humanist ceremony is your chance to celebrate in a way that resonates with who you are. No fuss, no rigid traditions – just you, your story, and a celebration that’s as unique as you are.
So, are you in?
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Legal Requirements
So, you’re planning to tie the knot in Scotland? Perfect.
Here’s the lowdown on the legal bits.
I know this is the boring bit, but if you’re having a legal wedding, it’s really important, so please take a moment to read it. I’ll try and break this down... It’s quite simple, really.
First things first I can LEGALLY marry you in Scotland, anywhere anytime!
That’s the best bit, there is so much freedom!
Humanist Ceremonies are legally binding in only a few countries including Scotland, Ireland, Northern Ireland, Iceland, Canada, Australia, New Zealand, Norway and certain states of the USA. It’s important to mention, that if you live outside these countries, and you choose to legally marry in Scotland, you are indeed married everywhere in the world!
So, say you live in England, cross the border and get hitched, you’re still legally married in England — I get asked this a lot.
Although I am legally authorised to solemnise weddings in Scotland (this means that the necessary legal declarations can be included in the ceremony and you do not have to have a separate civil ceremony in a registry office), you will still need to contact the registry office closest to your chosen venue/location. You can read more on the National Records of Scotland website.
M10 FORMS PAPERWORK
Imagine the M10 form as your official shout out to the local authorities saying, “Hey, we're getting hitched!” Both you and your partner need to complete separate M10 forms. These are not electronic and will require a printer.
Your Marriage Notice (M10) forms are your responsibility to complete but I'll send you an automated reminder when your application opens. You must submit your Marriage Notice to the closest Registry Office to your chosen Venue/Location/Mountainside - see a list here
YOUR APPLICATION OPENS 90 DAYS PRIOR AND CAN BE SUBMITTED NO LATER THAN 29 DAYS BEFORE YOUR MARRIAGE DATE.
The M10 generates your Marriage Schedule, no marriage schedule...NO legal wedding. Simples. Please note that for a legal marriage the Registrar will also charge an administration fee of £45 each, for processing your M10 forms. The form asks for essential details like your full names, dates of birth, and addresses. If either of you have been married before; then is the info the form wants to know too. Gather up those key documents... birth certificates, photo IDs (a passport or driving license is great), and a recent utility bill that states your name and address. If you are a foreign national you'll need a “Declaration of Status by Non-UK Nationals” certificate, and potentially a marriage visa too.
Still with me? Ok good...
If you choose to book with me, I will send you a reminder when your application opens 90 days prior. You can't submit your M10's way in advance, but don't leave it for the last minute either. They need to be submitted at least 29 days before, and there is no flexibility in this, so please let this be a warning that 3 months before, you’ll need to give this time, energy and effort.
You need two witnesses for a Marriage ceremony (as your celebrant, it can’t be me) They'll sign the marriage schedule and witness your Legal Declarations. Their details are a must on the form too. You do not need to be related in anyway.
If you are Eloping and need help finding a witness, I can totally help you. This is at an additional cost of £50 for their time and fuel paid on cash to them on the day.
Accuracy is key when submitting your paperwork. Review everything, ensure names are spelled right, and all the documents are in order. Small hiccups can slow things down. How you submit your paperwork is up to you. If you are not local to the area then recorded delivery can take up to 2 weeks depending where in the world you are, so please bear in mind that deadline of 29 days.
If you are visiting your venue / chosen location for your ceremony, some couples will pop in to the Registry Office. Please ensure you make an appointment with them before as they are very busy and are only open Monday to Friday.
“Rona’s support was just phenomenal and she absolutely went the extra mile for us. Over the last few months, she became more than our celebrant and really came to feel like a friend. We’ll miss her dearly. For anyone considering using Rona, don’t hesitate, she’ll be the best decision you make!”
Jodie & Jonathan
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Marriage Visas
MARRIAGE VISAS
This is the link to the UK Gov site to check if you require a “Marriage Visitor Visa.” You can check if you need a visa here.
EACH PARTY REQUIRES A VISA IF THEY ARE NOT UK NATIONALS ALTHOUGH SOME EU CITIZENS DO NOT.
In my experience, the Marriage Visitor Visa application process can be lengthy so I suggest you commence your application at the earliest opportunity if you haven't already done so.
The Registry Offices in Scotland will be your go to contact for advice and guidance on the visa process. Although I can offer support, I can not give guidance or the facts on the process as this changes so regularly and I would hate to give you duff info. It might sound like a bunch of formalities, but think of it as your golden ticket to a legal marriage in Scotland. It’s worth it!
If you are overseas and the whole visa process is a little daunting, then a wedding blessing / symbolic ceremony might be the best option for you.
This is essentially a ceremony without the legal wording, and mountains of paperwork. If you choose to do this, you will not be required to contact the registry office in Scotland or have any witnesses present.
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Why Scotland?
Epic mountains, pristine beaches, & magical lochs .
Why get married in Scotland?
Well, first of all, because you can! Scotland is currently the only country in the UK where you can legally get married anywhere – providing your ceremony is conducted by a registered celebrant. This means that you can choose a location that’s special and meaningful to you: it might be somewhere that holds happy memories, somewhere that you’ve always dreamed to visit or simply a place that makes sense to you.
Scotland has it all when it comes to romantic locations: epic mountains, pristine beaches, ancient woods and magical lochs. Any one of these could be the backdrop to your wedding.
FINDING A LOCATION
If you would like some advice on this, I’m always happy to help if you need some suggestions, and your photographer(s) can help too!
Scotland is home for me, so I know almost every nook and cranny of the country, and the ones I don’t know, I’m keen to explore with you! There are some beautiful hidden gems that I’d love to share with you...
First of all, you need to decide on a location or venue as you will need to specify this when you apply for your paperwork.
“Rona hiked up the Quiraing with us, performing the most breathtaking ceremony imaginable. It wasn’t just the setting that made it special, but the way she told our story as if she had been there every step of the way. She captured the essence of who we are and brought it to life with her words. It felt like she had known us for years – an old soul who radiates wisdom and calm, making everyone around her feel comfortable, loved, and celebrated.”
Michelle & Shane
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Pricing & Inclusion
I Promise to prioritise you, on your day, you are my focus.
Sometimes, you just gotta know how much it’s all going to cost...
As a self employed Humanist Celebrant my fees range from £550 to £650 depending on the distance, timing and location.
I take a £100 (non refundable) deposit once your contract and quote has been agreed, and the remainder 6 weeks before your wedding date, by which time you are in full wedding excitement mode, your legal paperwork process has started, and I will begin writing your script with your input and help.
I'll send you a reminder too, as I know how bonkers it is keeping on top of supplier payments.
If you are shopping about and looking for a “cheap” celebrant, then I’m not for you!
I put a lot of time, care and effort into what I do and love working with couples who appreciate and understand how hard I work for them. For me, it’s an honour to be there on such a special day, and a big responsibility too! It is my aim to produce a wedding ceremony which is completely unique, loving, personal and meaningful to you both. And of course, memorable and fun too!I promise you, your ceremony will be jam packed with memories that will make you smile weeks, months, and years later... You will never forget your ceremony!
It’s important to know that my ceremonies are unique, and a one off a kind created for you. I write your story from scratch, they are completely personalised to you.
I prioritise you, on your day, you are my focus.
I only do one wedding a day so I’m not rushing off to go marry another couple. This is where my fee varies to others, I can provide you with flexibility on the day.
If you need to change your timing of the ceremony fairly last minute then that’s totally cool. I will be there!
I VOW TO YOU
A Vibe Check Call
(See this as our first date) Ideally we would do this in person if you’re local or visiting the Highlands, however the majority of my calls are over Zoom..
My guaranteed respect
For your privacy, sensitive information and confidentiality assured.
Writing & delivery of your bespoke ceremony
A unique ceremony created for you; delivered in a personal and professional manner. Good craic, unlimited hugs and banter thrown in there too!
Guidance & Reassurance
Regular check-ins throughout your planning process, and keeping you on track with reminders for legal paperwork applications.
Flexibility in timing on the day
Scottish weather doesn’t always work in your favour so I will provide you with the reassurance that I am never rushing off to marry another couple. I only do one wedding a day.
A personalised, friendly, down to earth approach
I get to know you. I will send you some questionnaires to find out all about YOU! This allows me to build your ceremony script and make you feel like you’re being married by a pal.
Help Guides
I’ve written to help bring your ceremony to life. From writing vows, to Symbolic Gestures such as handfasting and drinking from the Quaich. I’ll provide you support when writing your personal vows, and feedback (if you need it).
Adhere to and fulfill all legal requirements & standards
As set by Humanist Society Scotland.
Supplier Liaison
I'll connect with your venue, planner, photographer, and videographer to ensure everyone is on the same page for a smooth sailing ceremony.
Your biggest supporter, Cheerleader and Celebrant Pal
I’ll be with you, every step of the way to ensure you feel safe, listened to, valued and most importantly, your best self on your wedding day!
TRAVEL & ACCOMMODATION
I am based in a wee village called Portree, on the Isle of Skye, but I travel all over Scotland conducting ceremonies in unique and wonderful places, but tend to stick to the Highlands of Scotland to not step on the Central Belt celebrants toes.
Saying that, occasionally I’ll get Highland cabin fever and need a city fix so if you are keen to have me travel to the city; I’m up for a road trip, and a trip to the shops!
If a ferry is required for a secluded island destination weddings then the cost will be added to your final invoice. I am more than happy to book my own travel and accommodation if it's needed.
Please note, depending on the location and timing of your ceremony an overnight stay may be required. Say if you are doing a sunrise ceremony for example. I'm no princess, I'll stay anywhere, as long as it's dry, and I can have a cuppa and a shower in the morning...
I am very used to travelling long distances and getting up early, but sometimes in the peak of the summer the stress just isn't worth it; it can be to risky travelling on the day of your wedding. I will discuss this on our intro call.
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Timeline
Here’s the drill
Depending on how far in advance you’re booking me, your timeline may vary.
THE TIMELINE
12 MONTH COUNTDOWN
The journey starts with finding me. Reach out, and let's connect. Send an enquiry through my website, read testimonials, and if I’m available for your chosen date I’ll let you know my availability and we can set up an intro call.
VIBE CHECK CALL
Our first meeting is like a speed date for your wedding. Are we the right match for each other? Share your visions, ask questions, and let me walk you through the world of Humanist Ceremonies.
By the end, you'll know if we click. Choosing the right celebrant is key. It's beyond cost; it's about a connection. Feeling at ease with me is key, but it does work both ways.
SECURE YOUR DATE
Secure your date on the Humanist Society Scotland website and pay a fee of £98 to join the charity. Date confirmed by me and we are off. Boom!
MONEY HONEY
I take a £100 non-refundable deposit which secures your date at my end. I dedicate myself to one ceremony a day, offering flexibility. I’ll send you a contract, quote to accept (or decline) along with bank details to pay your deposit and let the countdown begin!
QUESTIONNAIRES & YOUR STORY
Throughout the lead up to your big day, I’ll send you a total of 4 Questionnaires and some Help Guides. The forms include, A wee bit about you, Your Story, Your Nitty Gritty Form and some Secret Questions that I’ll get you to complete separately.
PERSONAL VOWS
All the best vows, are your own words. Decide if you’d like to write your own vows, and if so, I’d love to see them around a month before your wedding if possible (so I can avoid any duplication in your wedding script)
YOUR LEGAL PAPERWORK
3 months before I’ll be back in touch with your legal paperwork application and your forms. This is usually when reality kicks in for you. Be prepared, and allow time.
KEEP ME IN THE LOOP
Our next meeting happens around two months before your ceremony so if there are any major changes, just keep me informed.
CEREMONY PLANNING CHAT
Once you legal paperwork has been submitted, We will arrange another call and dive into the structure of the ceremony, your vows, and every detail to ensure it aligns with your vision.
YOUR SCRIPT
I'll start writing your ceremony script! Woohoo! This is where the vision comes to life on paper, The majority of my couples choose to hear their ceremony for the first time on the day. The choice is yours. I personally love it when couples put their full trust in me, and on the day, a secret ceremony reveals such organic, natural reactions. It’s lovely!
THE WEEK OF THE WEDDING
You are required to collect your Marriage Schedule (the bit we sign on the day) before you get married, Most couples pick this up the day before, but you can collect up to 7 days prior.
When you collect your Marriage Schedule, guard this with your life...
ON THE DAY
Arriving at least an hour early, I'll introduce myself, grab your paperwork, coordinate with planners, photographers, videographers and all your superstar suppliers so ensure everything goes to plan. When the time comes, I'll present YOUR showstopper ceremony with passion and energy! With those words “YOU’RE MARRIED" your next adventure starts!
I don’t tend to over stay my welcome and linger to long after the ceremony as you’ll be busy getting photos etc. I’ll mingle for a bit and we’ll end this beautiful journey with a big HUG! (The saddest goodbyes!)
Think we’d hit it off?
Book a 20-minute no obligation call
BOOK YOUR FIRST DATE CALL
First meetings are as much for you, as they are for me. A ‘vibe check’ call.
Think of this as our first date... That’s the great thing about choosing a Humanist celebrant. There are loads of us. And we’re all weird and wonderful in our own way, so it’s important you find someone you like.
You're going to tell me your story, share your wedding day, vows and journey this far so you have to trust me... Ask yourself, do I want Rona to be the one by our side on one of the most important days of my life? It's a big deal booking your suppliers, you want to be surrounded by the creme de la creme team on your wedding day!
Take your time... but not too long, please note my diary books up extremely quickly. By booking a call, you are essentially holding your date until we speak. If you'd like to book a no obligation 20mins video call with me, please click the wee box below. Don’t be shy, don’t be nervous...
Ready to make it official?
Secure your wedding date
WHEN YOU KNOW, YOU KNOW.
After our intro call, if I’m right for you, fabulous!
Let’s do this! - Secure your Date ASAP!
If, after our call I haven’t heard from you after 48 hours, your date will opened up to other couples enquiring.
If you're happy with everything and wish to go ahead and book drop me an email first please. A lot can happen in the world of weddings in a short space of time.
If a booking comes in for the opposite side of the country the day after then my circumstances may change. Just check in with me first.
When you’ve got the go ahead, you can click the link and say I do with me! Yipeee!
Humanist Society Scotland have an online secure the date system, so they'll ask you some details about your day (Oh and, don't worry if you don't know your location or time of the ceremony yet, we can adjust this in due course...) and I then get a notification to confirm your booking, and that's you, date secure! BOOM!
I only perform one wedding a day, so when the dates gone, it's gone. To avoid any disappointment please don’t dilly dally.
